Education in Our Home

I am ready to participate in another blog hop on Sunday Society. I have been doing all the readings, but have been too caught up on my worldly cares to have time to write. I have repented and am back at writing.

This issue was so timely for me. I am preparing to purchase books that I would like to have to use for our 2011/2012 school year. In the section about education was written

Education essays to elevate the child to an honorable position in society, to assist in making him a competent, intelligent and virtuous citizen, a good patriot.

This is a better worded version of our school motto. This is our goal with our children. We have been working to raise children like those described since our oldest was born. The second sentence in the paragraph made me pause and consider.

If this be the aim, it is palpable that too little stress is often laid upon the moral and religious training of our youth.

My husband and I decided many years ago that nothing matters more than a testimony of our Savior Jesus Christ. If our children don't have this they have nothing and no amount of education can make up for it. We teach reading so they can study the scriptures, we teach math and art to show the beauty of our God. We study to science to show the order of His creation. We teach history to show that God cares about individual lives and the world as a whole. Everything we teach leads us back to God, if it doesn't, we don't teach it. The bulk of our school time is spent on reading the scriptures and talking about them, memorizing words of our prophets, and character building. We add history, science, math, and others when the Spirit directs (which is almost every day), but some days we only focus on those basics. We have taken some flack over the years for our ideas about education, but Joseph Smith said,

"If we seek first the Kingdom of God, all good things will be added."

This is our attempt at seeking to establish the Kingdom of God or Zion in our home. We try to be governed by God and nothing else, not our whims, desires, or passions, but by what God wants us to do. This means that we are not child led in our school and that our children know that sometimes what God wants us to do is not what we want to do. My children are still so very young and trust everything I say. When I say that their father and I prayed about it and this is the answer they are very willing and anxious to do what God wants. The pressure is on us to make sure that we are having them follow Gods plan and not our own. We are seeking to make His will our will. Thankfully He led me to Milestones Academy so most of the work has been done for me. We take her work and make it work for our family. (thank you Kate, the finding of this site is a miracle that still makes me smile whenever I think of it)

The final paragraph in the article is also another better worded version our our family motto.

When you can get a scholar to obey and to study because it is right, and from a conviction of accountability to God, you have gained a victory which is worth more than all the penal statutes in the world, but can never gain such a victory without laying great stress upon religious principles in your daily instruction.

In the end what matters is that my children are happy and have a firm testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ and have the discipline and knowledge to follow His direction.

(I really need to update our family photo, we are missing a person)

Women of Mormondom

Thia week for the blog hop at Society Sunday I read the first chapter from a book called The Women of Mormondom. What I want to say about this chapter is WOW! what an inspirinng read. These women were compared to not only the original apostles but also the the ancient prophets Mr. Tullidge even called them phrophets. Of them he writes.

"Women with new types of character, ancient rather than modern; Themes ancient but transposed to our latter-day experience. Women with their eyes open, and the prophecy of their work and mission in their own utterances, who have dared to enter upon the path of religious empire-founding with as much divine enthusiasm as had the apostles who founded Christendom."

In my quest for greater faith I have used these women as examples, their lives have become more than stories lately, they have become friends. I have had my heart turned to my mothers as I have been studying the history of the Relief Society and found myself lacking. I have been given a legacy of faith through their trials, tears, and heartaches; service, love, and friendship. I fear that I have taken for granted the privilege I have of being a member of the Relief Society and have not been as useful an instrument as has been in my power. As women of the Relief Society we have an opportunity and obligation to come together and improve our community; whether it is the home community, ward community or wider community that needs improving. If we work together we have the ability to call down the power of Heaven that is lacking in too many lives. Many today want to do something big and many miss opportunities given because they seem insignificant and even I had fallen prey to this philosophy of men mingled with scripture. These women were not out to do something big, they just wanted to live thier lives in conformity to God's plan for them. This was just everyday life most of the time, occassionally they were called upon to act in extraordinary ways, but they had been prepared to do the big things He asked because they had practised with the little things. They knew His voice and had come to trust Him so it was easy to follow. I am thankful for the council to study the history of the Releif Society. Sister Beck truely is prophetic. I am incredibly greatful for the faith of these women and their examples. Their lives, though sometimes short and never easy, have been blessing women for generations.

Power in the Home

One month ago my life was easy. I had a great husband, four beautiful daughters, a small, but lovely home, steady income, and peace. Three weeks ago my husband moved to another state for work. He leaves Monday morning at 3:30 am and comes home Friday evening at 7:30. The first two Saturdays that we had were so chaotic. I was running around cooking his meals to take, cleaning his things, doing his laundry and trying to find everything I could to make his stay at a motel as comfortable as possible. This just made tension and made me feel "cumbered about by many things." I knew I needed to choose "that good part," but had so much to do. I also knew that we had him home so few hours that I should not be wasting the time with him. This week was different. I spent Friday morning cooking all of his meals and putting away all of our laundry. Friday afternoon I collected the things he said he would like to take with him next week. Saturday morning I got up early and started his laundry and the three loads were done in no time. I became aware that I was a new person this week. Early in the week I read an excerpt from a Relief Society newspaper published in 1873 that said

HOME is the realm in which the wife is the sovereign, and her sovereignty will bring her honor and love according as her rule over the matters committed to her trust is wisely and beneficently ordered.

I have been reminded of my sovereignty in my home as I am without my husband. It is me that designs the schedule and makes it happen. It is me that controls the mood and spirit in our home. These things do go well as long as I am wise and orderly. I thought that I would be able to relax and let some things go that were important to my husband, but didn't seem so to me. I have learned that doing so is not wise and takes out much of the order and I do not get much honor nor love.

That realm, limited as it is, demands for its government a much greater and a more unremitting effort of thought than is always given to it.

I thought that I was limited, that I had little power, but I am completely in control right now..... I don't think I like it very much. I learned exactly how much my husband does for me. I not only have to take the garbage out to the can, but have to take the can to the curb on pick up day, then bring it back in. This may not seem like a bit deal, but try forgetting one week. I have many reasons to appreciate my husband now, and have begun to see how the limits of my power are self imposed. The more effort and thought I put into managing my home now the more power I have.

I am very happy to be having this experience. That may sound crazy, but we have been so blessed already because of this. Before my husband left he gave each member of our family a blessing. It was one of the most sacred experiences I have had. Those blessings have been such a comfort and an uplift since he left. I have found my prayers to be much more focused and sincere, my scripture study has gained ground and these have led to increased faith. I am able to more readily hear and follow the Lord's promptings through the Holy Ghost. My priorities have changed.

My life may no longer be easy, but I am now making forward progress. We are coming together in ways that just one month ago I didn't think were possible. I am thankful to see some of my weaknesses turning to strengths as I face this challenge with faith instead of fear like in the past. I will take the things I am learning over easy any day.


This is the website with the excerpt of the paper, Society Sunday. I am so happy to be participating this week and hope to continue each week.

Of Pedantry by Montaigne

We are commanded to learn all we can. This commandment can be found in the scriptures and from the words of the living prophets. There is always a condition that comes with the admonition to learn, and that is to always seek God first. This essay is about this command and condition. Montaigne condemns pedantry and philosophers. Pedants are those who are too proud of their education. They are vain and boastfully display their knowledge. Philosophers are those who have really great ideas, but neither worry about nor care about the practical side of their ideas. He doesn't consider either group fit for public office or much else for that matter.

The problem he sees, and I agree with him, is that they don't study the right way. They learn to look good, but never internalize it. He likens them to birds who forage for food and bring it home in their beaks for their young without actually tasting it. This is manifest by gleaning a few sentences from lots of books and keeping them on the tip of your tongue ready to spew out for show. Knowledge should be used to change us for the better. It is wrong to fill our minds and those of our children with out creating virtue. Parents and society are at fault. Parents expect teachers to teach facts to their children and then tie their hands when it comes to morality. The world values a learned man more than a good man. “We only labor to stuff the memory and leave the conscience and understand unfurnished and void.”

Education has three levels, references to these are found throughout the scriptures. They are knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. Knowledge is filling our minds with facts, understanding is internalizing the knowledge, and wisdom naturally follows by using our knowledge and understanding to change us and in the process the world. This takes effort and can be painful. Montaigne's advice is to take the challenge to gain wisdom. He suggests that people stop learning for learning's sake, you need to apply it and do some good. Having large libraries and even reading them, according to Montaigne, is useless unless we form our own thoughts. I attempt to accomplish this by writing these essays. Most scholars, he claims, are just parrots saying what everyone else has said. He asks, “but what do we have to say?”

Obtaining wisdom is the only virtuous goal of education. It is not enough to just not let our education corrupt us, as hard as that is, it has to make us better. This takes time. “Though we could become learned by other men's learning, a man can never be wise but by his own wisdom.” He also tells us that is we can not incorporate what we are studying into soul and if this can't be done it is better to not learn at all. Denver Snuffer wrote in his book, The Second Comforter, Conversing With the Lord Through the Veil, “No education is better than no education.”

The right motivation is the key. Getting a job, just to have knowledge, or to look good are not correct motivation, wisdom is the only one that qualifies. The reason is summed up by Montaigne, “Knowledge is an excellent drug, but no drug has virtue enough to preserve itself from corruption and decay if the vessel be tainted and impure wherein it is put to keep.” It is our job to keep our vessel clean and pur of any unworthy motivation and do good with what we learn. We need to make sure that the balance of our lives is forever tipped toward faith so that we never find ourselves relying on our own are any other man's “arm of flesh,” reasoning, and intellect.

Customs by Montaigne

Doing something over and over makes it easier to do, even if the time tween occurrences is long, we can still become used to it, like living by church bells or railroad tracks. I have even noticed this happening when the intervals are random, such as the sirens for the fire alerts. This is the idea behind habits building, or laying the rails, that Charlotte Mason wrote about. When something is our custom or habit we can do it without thinking, like walking or driving. Changing our customs does not come easy. This is what Montaigne meant when he wrote, “Custom is a violent and treacherous school mistress.” This is never more true than when we try to break from custom, even in little things like getting dressed in a certain order, but surely in big things such as family holiday traditions. We are met with opposition not only from ourselves, but from others as well.

New customs and habits are learned slowly and ones we have now may have originated in our early childhood. Montaigne wrote, “I find our greatest vices derive their first propensity from our most tender infancy and that our principle education depends upon the nurse.” This statement made me sop and really think about the customs I am passing along to my children and the habits I am allowing them to develop. Most of them are good and I have been deliberate about it, but some are not. These are the ones that I have often unwittingly allowed to form and that need my direct attention. This is why the years from birth until at least the age of accountability are so very important. What children learn them will determine what they are able to learn and do the rest of their lives. Cor values such as discipline, obedience, listening, diligence, and hard work need to be taught first along with the ability to determine what is right and wrong, good and bad, and true and false. They also need to have time to play and develop their imaginations. There really is no time for academics. Actually academics is not desirable or possible without the foundation of these core values and skills.

These are taught by mom, starting from the very beginning. As mothers we need to require obedience, quality work, and attention. Children need to work with mom on what ever needs to be done. They need to love to hear mom's voice and learn to respond to it whenever she speaks. We need to model all of this. We also need to limit their exposure to bad models of the qualities we want them to develop.

This means work, hard work that many of my generation don't know how to do. It means breaking some of the customs that have developed in our culture and establishing your own. We should not be sending our 3 and 4 year old babies to preschool. We need to stop watching television and playing video games. We need to stay home and stop entertaining our children. Probably the most difficult to do and yet the most important is to do what Charlotte Mason calls Masterly Inactivity. This is supervising your children and being there to correct if necessary, but not hovering or being intrusive.

Breaking form custom is hard, but certainly work it if the custom is wrong. That is what New Years resolutions are all about. We should periodically, not just January 1, look at our lives and decide if our customs or habits lead us to or away from God and adjust accordingly.

I am not reading Gargantua and Pantagruel by Rabelais

After reading the biographical information about Rabelais and some reviews of his writing, I learned my lesson from Lysistrata., I have decided to skip this one. There is so much filth and evil surrounding me in the world I do not need to invite it into my home via television, radio, entertainment, magazines, or the books I read. I know there is value in the work or it would not have included in the collection, but I am not interested in what the world values only what God values and he is directing me away from it. Elder Dallin H. Oaks gave a talk in the October 2007 General Conference that has guided my choices since. In it he said, “We have to forgo some good things in order to choose others that are better or best because they develop faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and strengthen our families.” I can with certainty that this is not a “best”, it is not a “better”, and is not even a “good” so I will not be touching it. My purpose in using the “good, better, best” test can be found in Doctrine and Covenants section 133 verse 5, “Go ye out from Babylon. Be ye clean that bear the vessels of the Lord.” I can't do this if I actually invite Babylon into my home and mind through reading things like this. I am so thankful to have the Holy Ghost and living prophets to guide me.

The Prince by Nicolo Machiavelli

The Prince by Machiavelli has been a taboo book for me for a long time. As a consequence, it has sat on my shelf for many years waiting to be read. I had heard it to be a how-to-guide for ruthless rulers. It seemed to be to be a book about furthering the suffering of innocent people at the hands of had leaders and I thought it would be hard. I was partly right in that there was much advice about how to get and stay on top, but it was not hard to read at all. In fact, it was easy. It flowed really nice and it was fascinating.

Machiavelli wrote it as a gift for Prince Lorenzo di Piero de' Medici. It seemed to me to be a resume or job application. He had been removed by the monarchy from a position his family had held for generations. He had been living in the country and at night secretly dressed in his court garments and conversed, through books, with the great men of history. He state his was writing down his observations about the successes and failures of past rulers in order to advise the new ruler.

The basic premise is that the end power and glory, earthly glory, justifies any means of getting there. Machiavelli advises over and over of avoiding the hatred of the people. According to him, this, having the people hate you, was the most dangerous position for a leader to find himself in. To accomplish this he suggest things such as the prince relocate, temporarily, to a newly acquired principality, not changing their laws or taxes, and at the very least keep the cruelty swift, early, and only to a necessary degree. The other alternative is the ruin them. “They ought to be well treated or crushed, because they can avenge themselves of lighter injuries, of more serious ones they cannot; therefor the injury that is to be done ought to be of such a kind that one does not stand in fear of revenge.”

After reading just a part of it I realized that there was very little that I could apply to me as a wife and mother, so I had to step away from my world view and try to see it from theirs. This was good advice to give to people whose only purpose is to gain power without any worry about eternity. I do know people like this, but even with success they are not happy. Selfishness is the theme running through the whole book.

Probably the most damaging and damning advice he gives is that it is not necessary to possess the good qualities he suggests, just o appear that the does. He points it out most directly when speaking of religious matters, this way when it becomes prudent or necessary they will not be held back by actual faith in God. They need to be good, but only in a way that people see them being good, merciful, faithful, etc. Doing it without the people knowing is a waste of time.

Almost all of what he promoted was the opposite of what I have been taught. Machiavellie is only concerned wit the here and now. He also believes that all men are enemies. Either they are weak or they are strong, but all are bad. The weak are only concerned about not being oppressed and are always looking for a replacement for their leader to better their situation and the strong are all rivals to your power. What a lonely life this kind of thinking leads to!

I prefer the government of god through men who hold the priesthood. Good leaders, in my opinion, let charity be our guide, “Charity suffereth long and is kind, envieth not, and it not puffed up, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil and rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things hepeth all things, endureth all things.” A real leader follows the counsel found in Doctrine and Covenants 121: 41-46:

41No power or influence can or ought to be maintained by virtue of the priesthood, only by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned;

42By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile—

43Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;

44That he may know that thy faithfulness is stronger than the cords of death.

45Let thy bowels also be full of charity towards all men, and to the household of faith, and let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly; then shall thy confidence wax strong in the presence of God; and the doctrine of the priesthood shall distil upon thy soul as the dews from heaven.

46The Holy Ghost shall be thy constant companion, and thy scepter an unchanging scepter of righteousness and truth; and thy dominion shall be an everlasting dominion, and without compulsory means it shall flow unto thee forever and ever.

The man or woman who leads this way will be truly successful. Success and peace in this life come from aiming for success in the next. God already proved this when the Isrealites surrounded the walls of Jericho. His prophet showed that, “They that be

with us are more than they that be with them.” There are many examples of righteous leaders in the scriptures. God has promised the He will go before us, a leader who follows Him can't fail.